Many teens struggle with anxiety and depression.
Some turn to self-harm to deal with their intense feelings. Self-harm and self-injury describe a group of behaviors in which you deliberately hurt yourself — not as a suicide attempt, but as a way to release painful emotions.
Cutting is one of the most common ways that teens hurt themselves. Some other common types of self-harm behaviors include:
These behaviors are more common than you might think; 6.4 to 30.8 percent of teens have admitted to self-harm behaviors! A 2018 study of over 64,000 teens across the United States found that almost 18 percent had purposely injured themselves in the past year. Self-harm is such a common phenomenon that it has been featured on Netflix’s Ginny and Georgia, HBO’s Sharp Objects, and films like 28 Days and Thirteen.
Why do people self-harm?
It can be difficult to understand why teens would hurt themselves intentionally. Teens who self-injure sometimes feel that they don't fit in or that no one understands them, so self-injury becomes a way to express that pain. But there is no universal answer because cutting is a complex behavioral problem and the answer varies from teen to teen. But it's important not to write it off as a phase, especially considering that of those who self-harmed, less than one in five (18 percent) had sought help for psychological problems of anxiety or depression, and those who self-injure are at a higher risk of committing suicide.
What the research says
Harvard professor of psychology Matthew Nock, hypothesizes the four main reasons for engaging in self-injury, both personal and social:
- To relieve tension or stop bad feelings, such as anger, hurt, shame, frustration, or alienation
- To feel something, even if it's pain
- To communicate with others to show they are distressed
- To get others to stop bothering them
For many, cutting is a pressure release valve. In fact, most self-injurers report that it calms them and brings a sense of relief. These soothing feelings most likely result from the release of endorphins, brain chemicals that relieve pain and can produce euphoria, for temporary relief from painful emotions.
When emotions aren’t addressed or expressed in a healthy way, pressure can build up — and when it comes to a head, it can feel unbearable. When someone doesn't know a better way to resolve their pain, cutting may seem like a solution to relieve that extreme pressure or regain control.
Are you struggling with self-harm?
There are other ways to cope with life’s challenges, even if they feel big and scary. A mental health professional can help you deal with your emotions. If you aren’t ready to talk to a mental health professional, try opening up to your friends, family members, or a trusted adult. It can help put things into perspective.
If you're experiencing a medical emergency: Call 911
If you're in a crisis:
Who is at highest risk for self-harm behaviors?
Another risk factor for self-injury is PTSD. Some teens use self-harm to deal with the pain of a traumatic experience, such as abuse, violence, or a disaster. It is one way to “wake up” from a sense of numbness that follows a traumatic experience, or it could be a way of expressing anger over it or trying to regain a sense of control.
Teens who self-harm sometimes have other mental health problems that contribute to their emotional tension. It’s sometimes (but not always) associated with anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, eating disorders, obsessive thinking, or compulsive behaviors.
Teens may be at higher risk of hurting themselves if their friends also hurt themselves.
How does self-harm take place?
Cutting generally isn't premeditated. That is, it often begins on an impulse. The impulse begins when someone feels upset by a situation, but can’t or doesn’t know how to express their emotions. Some emotions that can trigger self-harm include:
- Rejection by peers or adults
- Social issues
- Family discord
- Social media use, including videos and photos that show other kids cutting to cope with emotional pain
When they feel trapped in a haze of negativity, self-harm provides a temporary release from that pain.
Though they don’t usually mean to keep self-harming once they start, it can sometimes develop into an unhealthy coping habit. It can also become a compulsive behavior — the more a person does it, the more they feel inclined to do it again. The brain starts to map the false sense of emotional relief with the act of self-harm, and creates a neural pathway that craves this relief the next time that a triggering event comes along. When self-harm becomes a compulsive behavior, it can seem impossible to stop, almost like an addiction.
What are the signs of self-harm?
Self-harm is usually done in secret. If you’re concerned that someone in your life is self-harming, look out for these warning signs:
- Always wears long-sleeved shirts or long pants (even in the summer) to cover new cutting marks or older scars on their arms, wrists, or thighs (common areas where cutting occurs)
- Routinely has suspicious cuts, scratches, or burns on their belly, legs, wrists, or arms
- Is developing symptoms of depression, anxiety, or alcohol abuse
- Becomes visibly overwhelmed with strong emotions
- Suspicious looking scars
- Wounds that don’t heal or get worse over time
- Isolation and secretive behavior
- Talking about self-injury (they might mention peers who engage in self-harm)
- Collecting sharp items
- Avoiding social activities, including sports or other activities where they might have to change clothes in front of others
- Wearing a lot of bandages
Do you know someone who may be struggling with self-harm?
If you think that someone is engaging in self-harm, ask them about it gently. If the answer is yes, it's important not to get mad or overreact. You don't want to make them feel guilty for doing it.
Self-harm is often a side effect of a larger problem, and a therapist or counselor can help you sort through strong feelings, heal past traumas, and to learn better ways to cope with life's stresses.
A Word From A Brighter Day
Although self-harm isn’t considered suicidal in nature, it’s important to get help because there is a higher risk of suicidal behavior for teens who injure themselves. If there is an underlying mental health disorder, a mental health professional can help with a comprehensive evaluation.
Self-harm can be a difficult pattern to break, but it is possible to learn how to cope with problems in a healthier way.