It’s hard to fathom that dressing up in costumes, asking for candy, or handing out candy can increase the stress level in our teens.
But the shortened daylight hours and longing for one’s younger days when Halloween was innocent and fun can actually cause or increase the level of depression for your teen.
Here are a few traits your teen may experience in October that you should be aware of:
They desire to hang out in their room alone more than usual.
They desire to have absolutely no part in Halloween.
Seeing a look of hopelessness on the face of your teen.
Realizing that your teen really isn’t enjoying the school experience.
Eating and sleeping patterns are disrupted or changing.
Dinners have become quieter.
What can you do?
1. Make dinnertime a cell phone-free time and begin to genuinely engage with your teen.
Nothing is going to beat excellent communication with your teen.
2. Talk with them about Halloween and what their friends are doing.
3. Talk with them about school, tests, favorite and least favorite classes/teachers.
Don’t be afraid to dig deeper with more questions.
4. Go for a walk with your teen. Most people talk much more when they are walking with someone they like.
5. Dedicate a day or two to giving quality, undivided attention to your teen.
You can get creative here as they would rather not do this, but it’s so important. Make it fun. Take a trip. Plan a new activity. Involve their interests.
6. Be empathetic.
Try and view their world through your teen’s eyes, rather than just your own.
7. Be open-minded and non-judgmental.
It’s up to you to create a safe space for everyone.
If you are unsure of your teen’s feelings or how they are coping, don’t be afraid to use the Text Chat program. It’s available 24/7 for immediate support. Give this information to your teen as well.
Just text “BRIGHTER” to 741741.
We are here to help you.
Our resource center is at www.abrighterday.info. There are tons of articles, information toolkits, and parenting tips on how to strengthen the relationship with your teen.
We look forward to hearing from you. Please reach out to me at elliot@abrighterday.info.
All my best,
Elliot Kallen
